The Exclusive Club That Dads Don't Wanna Belong To

health, fitness, mental, kids, family, parenting, religion · EN-GB

On the 19th October 2022 my world changed forever, my beautiful Son and heir Jordan died in his sleep aged 41… One of the hardest things to take is that me and my son wasn’t speaking…people say it’s normal to feel guilty about that as Dads and Sons fall out all the time but I shouldn’t be riddled with guilt as I couldn’t predict his death plus guilt is just one facet of grieving ! Over the years I’ve had the sadness watching 6 mates I know bury their Sons and Daughters now I’m a member of that exclusive group but don’t wanna be part of the “CLUB!”.. Each funeral I went to of the lads who’d lost their children I’d be on the outside looking in - despite doing my best to offer support I didn’t really “know”what to say or do - not experiencing the “other pain”- what I mean by other pain is that .. we lose grandparents / parents other relatives and we somehow “accept” for want of a better word that’s how it’s supposed to be chronologically and we feel pain in them passing